Educational issue of the child, from ancient up to now, it is a difficult problem. The family teachs the place of the first education that is the child. Especially modern society, life rhythm is fast, time is close, the pressure of adult is great, very rare and redundant leisure and energy accompany the child, more do not talk to go up thorough communication and communication. And growing process of the child the participation of urgent need parents and company. Both always mediate very hard. So, in be known as classical godchild name piece " Fu Lei a letter from home " in, why does teach Lei Shiru undertake what communicate and communicate with child Fu Cong?
孩子的教育问题，从古至今，都是一个难题。家庭教育是孩子的第一教育场所。特别是现代社会，生活节奏快，时间紧，成年人的压力大，很少有多余的空闲和精力陪伴孩子，更谈不上深入的沟通和交流。而孩子的成长过程又迫切需要父母的参与和陪伴。两者总是很难调和。那么，在被誉为经典教子名篇的《傅雷家书》中，傅雷是如何和孩子傅聪进行沟通和交流的呢？作文网 zUOwEnBa.Net
Fu Lei hopes to build a kind of close friend to concern with the child, pour out each other, learn each other. Fu Lei translates the home, educationist as, having deep knowledge accomplishment, between the lines shows deep literal strength and artistic accomplishment fully. When Fu Cong encounters the problem on the career, fu Lei consoles son: “ a person dares to face up to reality only, face up to a mistake. With sensible analysis, comprehend thoroughly, eventually unapt be recollected to erode. ” encounters soulful setback when Fu Cong when, fu Lei gives deep and practical response: The thought of “ China philosophy, Buddhist thought, it is VIP can control emotion, is not to allow emotional control. When ” Fu Cong encounters depression of vexed, mood, teach ground of Lei Nengmin acute from epistolary in take these news. He is done not have kiss the identity with the father that stand high above the masses, censure inscrupulously, do not have more say some dry admonitory, encourage with warm and downy speech however, comfort Fu Cong, with the friend's snout, moderate tone, offerred realistic life proposal and advice to Fu Cong.
傅雷希望和孩子建立一种亲密的朋友关系，互相倾诉，互相学习。傅雷作为一名翻译家、教育家，有着深厚的学识修养，字里行间透露出深厚的文字功底和艺术修养。在傅聪遇到事业上问题时，傅雷劝慰儿子：“一个人惟有敢于正视现实，正视错误。用理智分析，彻底感悟，终不至于被回忆侵蚀。”当傅聪遭遇感情上的挫折时，傅雷给予深刻而实用的回应：“中国哲学的思想、佛教的思想，都是要人能控制感情，而不是让感情控制。”傅聪遇到烦恼、情绪消沉时，傅雷能敏锐地从书信中捕捉到这些信息。他并没有以高高在上的父亲身份，横加指责，更没有说些枯燥无味的训诫，而是以温暖柔和的话语鼓励、安慰傅聪，以朋友的口吻、平和的口气，给傅聪提出了切实的人生建议和忠告。
Fu Lei ever wrote in the letter: “ I am glad is me much a friend, the son became a friend. What thing is there to you can mix this kind to be compared happily on the world? There always is the topic that does not say between ” friend, career, feeling, life, it is OK those who share, of communication, OK and mutual complement, mutual draw lessons from. 2 people like father and son the character in novel of Luo Lan of Luo Man · overcomes Lisiduofu, fu Cong as a child with Kelisiduofu from exert oneself. Teach Lei Zaishu often cites in the letter the example of this character, comfort exert oneself son is brave in to face, the society solves a problem.
傅雷曾在信中写到：“我高兴的是我又多了一个朋友，儿子变成了朋友。世界上有什么事可以和这种幸福相比呢？”朋友之间总有说不完的话题，事业、感情、生活，都是可以分享的、交流的，可以相互补充、相互借鉴的。父子二人都喜欢罗曼·罗兰小说中的人物克里斯多夫，傅聪从小就以克里斯多夫自勉。傅雷在书信中就经常引用这个人物的事例，慰勉儿子勇于面对，学会解决问题。
Fu Lei is the child's good teacher and helpful friend, strict to the child's education however thorough popular feeling. " teach thunder a letter from home " the godchild name that is a make extraordinarily painstaking efforts piece. The strong close feeling in the book, the path of godchild of earnestly and tirelessly, let children know parental fine suffers from the intention not only, still can let parents understand the child what to yearn for, what to expect, let parents know the child more.
傅雷是孩子的良师益友，对孩子的教育严格却又深入人心。《傅雷家书》是一部苦心孤诣的教子名篇。书中浓浓的亲情，谆谆教子之道，不仅让孩子们知道父母的良苦用心，还能让父母了解孩子渴望什么、期盼什么，让父母更了解孩子。(文/谢美艳)